On the Importance of Asking Questions
Twice in the past two weeks, I received compliments on questions I asked. The settings were very different, but in both, I raised my hand and asked a question. This doesn’t sound all that earth shattering as I write this, and to be honest, I tend to ask a lot of questions. However, I have to admit I was rather astonished to receive compliments for asking questions. This has led me to reflect on the asking of questions a little more deeply.
For me, reflecting usually involves asking – yes – more questions. It also usually involves a quick Google search, too. What follows are some of the thoughts I’ve had about asking questions. I used to subscribe to the view that there are no stupid questions. Now, I believe there are few stupid questions.
First, I considered why questions are important. Asking questions allow me to gather more information. This is important because without enough information, I don’t have a complete understanding of what I am hearing.
Second, questions also demonstrate that I am listening to the person who is speaking, and am actively processing what they are saying to me. This is a necessary component of effective communication.
Third, questions allow me to guide the speaker to spend more time on topics in which I am interested. I try to use this one very carefully. Sometimes it is not appropriate for me to be guiding or directing the conversation. However, in situations where it is appropriate, I find it a valuable way of focusing conversations that might otherwise be too wide-ranging to be useful.
Fourth, questions allow me to check my understanding of what the speaker has said. Sometimes what I’m hearing is not what the other person is saying.
There are all kinds of situations you will be in where it is not only appropriate to ask questions, but expected. Many of you are searching for jobs. Asking good questions within the interview show those interviewing you that you have given the position serious thought and have done enough research to come up with some questions. Not only that, questions show you are engaged in the process and curious about what might well be your new workplace. Some questions you can prepare ahead of time, i.e. “What is the biggest challenge you are currently facing?” Others will arise from the specific content of each interview.
It is also important to ask questions once you start your new job. Some will be very informal and others will be in situations that you might find a bit daunting, such as your first staff meeting. I came across a Chinese proverb that states “He who asks is a fool for five minutes, but he who does not ask remains a fool forever.” Please don’t let your fear stand in the way of asking questions – you’ll hone your ability to ask better questions as you ask more questions.
Use your critical thinking skills to ask intelligent, thoughtful questions. Be curious. Ask the types of questions that help move a process forward. Ask open ended questions rather than closed questions. Other places where asking questions is expected are at professional presentations, faculty association meetings, university-wide meetings, inter-departmental meetings, meeting with your supervisor, in the coffee room with your colleagues, and in blogs (no surprise there, I hope).
The timing of asking questions is somewhat less important than most people think. If you are anything like me, you will have the experience of leaving the interview, or the session, or the conversation only to have a great question pop into your mind. If it is appropriate (and most times it is) take the time to email your question to the interviewer, or the presenter, or the person you were just talking with and simply say “I enjoyed talking with you and this question came to mind.” People will be justifiably flattered that you were continuing to think about what they said after you left them.
There are two small cautions I would like to add with respect to asking questions. Don’t ask questions just for the sake of asking questions. People can sense if you are just trying to score debating points or if your question is not asked genuinely and sincerely. Also, always leave room for others to ask questions. Many people are afraid to be the first to ask a question. These same people, however, often have very good questions they are willing to ask as long as they aren’t the first. Accept the challenge to be the first person to ask a question. You might be surprised what a positive influence this can be. However, please don’t misuse your ability to ask questions to dominate a session unfairly.
No one has all the answers. No one expects you to have all the answers. Eric Raymond, Open Source software advocate, said “good questions are a stimulus and a gift.” So I will close with a question: Are you offering enough good questions as gifts?
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